My brain is all a clutter!! After sharing the last three posts, I am feeling vulnerable and anxious. I will continue my series when I am not so rambly and jumbled. I am sure it has much to do with Thanksgiving next week and the many social encounters I have had the past two weeks – along with delayed reactions to moving. My brain always takes longer to catch up and process everything. In light of that, I thought it may be a good idea for me to share about some things that have been happening. Daniel has surprised me in several ways this week. He and Joshua blew me away the other day! However, great progress can manifest great meltdowns. I share that because I think many people forget, including me.
Whenever there are major connections being made in the brain it takes a lot to process.
It affects the entire body and all the systems going on in there, for Autistics it can cause overwhelming emotions and unexpected reactions. For me, I have also seen this with my kids, when it comes to socializing or trying new things the excitement can take over and we do not realize how much we are affected by what we are doing the next thing we know we are crying feeling very sad, or we become irritable, sometimes angry and have no idea why. Trying something new takes much thought for me many times the attempt seems to come out of nowhere as if it is spontaneous when in actuality; it has been a long time brewing in my mind – I just have not voiced it.
I have seen this pattern with my kids as well.
This week the boys created artwork all on their own. I have given up on my attempts to motivate them into doing any sort of drawing or crafty type of things lately, because it has been the source of unpleasantness for all of us. All three kids and I have dysgraphia and find it challenging to write and cut with scissors, glue can cause sensory meltdowns with me I have gone into hyperventilation episodes when I could not get glue off me – my kids have had similar reactions. :-/ Ariel has a gift with drawing and being creative with painting, creating image stories, but she has difficulty putting those stories into words and sentence structures.
The boys have difficulty with imagining a story and creating a drawing along with words and sentence structures – it takes a lot of breaks and effort for school.
However, they do come up with great imaginative play; Joshua is always playing out some sort of story line with his Lego’s or whatever toy he is playing with at the time. Daniel has stories, but very rarely do I get to hear them. On occasion he will share something like, “Mr. Turtle is going to a school meeting like me. He needs to do his lessons then, he can play.” He has not shown much interest in wanting to participate with Joshua and Ariel when they are creating stories with toys. He has gotten his toys before and sat next to them, but he did not interact much. He has, but not much and not for very long.
This week he did a lot of interacting and participating.
He added his own ideas and bits to the stories they were making up. He felt comfortable to engage and participate. He is feeling more confident and enjoying himself. I love that! I kind of went off my focus, sorry. The other nugget of awesomeness here is that Joshua, who normally shuts down into a mass on the floor when I ask him to write anything or attempt a drawing for art, came up with an idea to create drawings and sell them for money. He spent two days drawing, writing, and creating stories. I had to explain to him that being an artist does not normally pay that well then; I had to burst his bubble that people most likely were not going to buy his drawings. I felt awful.
Some of them are priced rather high at about $10 so…
Daniel participated as well putting his prices on his art – he decided that he wanted to make enough money to buy us a house so he jacked up his spaceship price to $30,000. Any takers? Lol! They took the news fairly well, after I explained it in more detail. Joshua shared with me that he wanted to make a lot of money so that he could buy the Lego Death Star and the New Mario Brothers game. They did not realize all the hard work they were doing. They were spelling, thinking of prices and writing the dollar amounts. They were drawing some great drawings, cutting and pasting all kind of things. It was incredible – I did not tell them that they were doing many things that resembled school work. Daniel watched Joshua for a while and then, jumped right in and copied what Joshua had done. He has never done that before.
They spent all day together creating their artwork.
Throughout the day Daniel would say with excitement, “Mom! Look, I cut this out all by myself. I have never done that before.” Those words rang through the day with every new thing he did, “Mom! Look, I made a sun; I have never done that before!” On and on magical words and creations filled the house. Ariel was not into it for some reason, she was caught up in her comic books and they trump all things, but she draws all the time and makes things throughout the day on a daily basis – it is hard to keep up with all of her stuff. It is how she processes everything. (Focus, focus, focus! Talking to myself.) Not only did they do all of that they also, completed school work for me. Daniel came up with a journal entry for his school assignment writing out his graphic organizer all by himself!
I typed out the words that he came up with and he copied them all on his own.
I normally, have to prompt him or guide him with the whole thing. His hand writing looked awesome too! Last week, it was not that good while working with his OT. He was so proud. Big smiles from this momma. Joshua came up with an “advice for a friend” paragraph. He came up with a problem and the sentences for his paragraph on his own. Another round of big smiles from this momma! I do believe some art therapy was going on around here. They did a lot of hard work, but enjoyed themselves. They did amazing and I am so proud of how they pushed themselves to try new things, with such positive outcomes, and that they put forth even more hard work for their school work. Today we are taking it easy and recovering. I am most excited that the boys found their way to be creative and had so much fun with tasks that normally cause them much turmoil and pain.
Winning! 😉 Picture time!