I had to do a mind dump post because I have so much swarming around my brain that my head is spinning.
On Friday when I wrote my last post, I was under the assumption that all things that were going wrong with this house and yard were to be fixed on Saturday. I felt fairly confident about signing on for another year. (Not so much anymore.) The property manager prepared us in advance that there would be a landscape crew and maintenance people to work on the pipes and such. The property manager showed up along with the crew, the next thing we saw were the owners. They drove all the way out here from the state that they live in without warning and sent everyone home.
They started doing the work themselves.
Then, they texted us and said that they would be here for the next four days doing work. Keep in mind, that we have repeatedly asked them to PLEASE warn us if there is going to be days of work or different people parading in and out. After last week being such so intense socially and a new adventure week I was concerned with how Daniel was going to respond.
I was concerned about myself too.
They did not explain anything to us they only texted me and told me when they were going to be here working. Since the sudden change without any information or warning I decided we had to leave the house. I was almost in an anxiety panic because of the change and not understanding why they showed up and sent everyone else home.
I was confused.
Confusion sends me into a tailspin and sets off my anxiety. The owners were visibly upset, that caused me to get physically ill. The whole situation set off a series of PTSD triggers (There are numerous situations that it was similar to in my mind.) because of how sudden and random everything was, I felt as though I was going to be “attacked” at any moment.
However, everything that they were upset about had nothing to do with us.
It is stated clearly that THEY are responsible for the landscaping and the maintenance of the house. We did not cause any of the problems they apparently have been going on for quite some time … according to the neighbors who showed up at our door stating that if they flooded their driveway again they were going to sue! Egad! Not us the property manager and the owners. They were only talking to us because apparently they had been in heated debates with the owners before and the cops were called. (On the owners that is.)
I held it together VERY well.
That woman talked to David thank goodness, while I was getting the kids ready. I told the owners and the property manager repeatedly that they needed to send a landscaper out here. They said that they would send someone, but no one ever came. Well except a few weeks ago, when I encountered the random strange man who was sitting in my yard who could not speak english and had no car or equipment.
David ended up going with me to take the kids to the renaissance festival.
It was small and seemed more like a gathering, but it was fun to watch some fencing is medieval garb. The kids wanted to play at the park so we went there and then, took them to get their free ice cream that they earned from the reading event at the library. (Daniel had sorbet.) On Sunday, I was a nervous wreck. I tried all day to be calm and it took much of my energy. Then! The owners texted me and said that they were getting a water jet to clean the house and the grounds.
My heart nearly leaped out of my chest.
I had images of uncontrollable meltdowns and nonstop screaming from the sound. Daniel has heard one once … ONCE! I did not want to encounter what happened before, I set a time for them to do it when we would be gone. They agreed, but then requested to do it sooner Monday morning.
I asked them to please wait and tried to explain about sound sensitivity and Daniel.
They waited for me to pack up and get the kids out out earlier than expected so I had to try and keep the kids occupied until Joshua’s basketball camp was to start. They were here for a short time on Tuesday talking to the property manager. The energy that surrounded the house for those few days was intense and seemed to jump all over my body like a bunch of stinging bees. I did well at keeping it together – I had to because Daniel had a several rough moments. I did have moments of wanting to open the door and say, “SEE! See what you have done to my poor child!” I did not instead, I had a mini-meltdown that consisted of me collapsing on my laundry that needed to be put away with a few moments of tears.
I bounced back, got up and proceeded with my day.
David overheard them trying to sell the house to someone and stated that they were only required to give us 30 to 60 days, but “with them maybe less.” WHAT? I just explained to the woman how important it was that we keep routine, and need to be informed of change in advance for our son.
She had only moments earlier explained to them that they could not look inside the house because our son suffers from “anxiety disorder.”
Which I guess autism translates to that for her or she was just saying that thinking the people would not understand the word autism. I do not know, but in the same breath she said that she had a nephew with an anxiety disorder and it is difficult on him with any sudden changes or disruptions. Um, but it is ok to not give us the legally required advance notice if they sell the house?
People confuse me.
Anyway, they left I can breathe again. I am so thankful that we already had plans this week and that I had the splash pad and the park to use as motivation with Daniel. The weather has been great too and boy, and I leaping with happy over that. Joshua is starting to have a little difficulty with his basketball camp. He expects to win at the games they play and to be able to “get” all the moves right away. He gets so bummed. I keep trying to build him up and remind him that it is not about winning. I have explained to him time and time again that you have to practice if you want to get better.
He wants to try soccer next, I’ll get him in that and give it a try.
He is enjoying himself though and making friends. I think that is what matters. It does not help that Ariel is a natural at basketball. It frustrates him when she is good at things that he tries. I guess that can be part of the sibling thing? I do not understand being a sibling. I was too old and was more of a motherly type for my sisters. I think Joshua is mainly just tired. When he gets tired he can become fixated on negative thoughts. I watched him and thought he was doing great. I saw all his smiles and hootin’ and hollerin’ for the other kids. He has been having fun until the end when they play some game. I am not sure what the game is they just have to get a basket before the other guy and if they do not they are out.
Last bit of info to get out of my head.
Ariel and Daniel have been making friends at the splash pad. Ariel is becoming more comfortable around girls and having fun with them. She is still very much a loner and likes to play by herself or requests me to play with her. She has decided that I am now her big sister too. I said something like “we are like best friends.”
She said, “Oh, no. We are more than that. You are my mother, my sister, best friend, and more.”
I got a little giddy with that. I had a bit of fear about having a little a girl. I was afraid that I would not be able to relate to her or that she would not relate to me. (That is the short version of my feelings.) I am pleased to say Ariel and I get each other very much and we have loads of fun.
Daniel has been interacting in ways that he never has before.
Yesterday, there was a little boy following him around doing everything that Daniel was doing. I said, “Daniel, that little boy wants to play with you.” He asked, ‘What little boy?” I showed him and Daniel started following the boy and keeping tabs on him the whole day. They did not talk they simply followed each other doing the same things giggling and splashing having a grand ole’ time. Today we met with a piano teacher and she is a perfect fit for him.
We were there for about an hour.
He investigated the piano and played it. She talked to me for a bit and then, talked to Daniel. He did answer most of her questions and passed the basic assessment about the keys, hands, and the numbers for each finger. I cannot remember everything now, but I really liked her and she made me feel very calm. Anyone who does that has proved to be a good person for me to be around.
I can have pretty good people’dar.
When I am not confused or overwhelmed; surprisingly, I was not today just all of this jumbled in my head. I was not confused or overwhelmed though. I guess that is all I need to get out of my head. Whoosh! It has been clogged up and jumbled for days. I hope to have a more insightful series of posts soon, but I may end up just writing about the awesomeness of this week. I think I need to go hug Joshua for a while and see if there is anything else that may be bothering him.
I will leave you with some pictures! Happy Wednesday!