The other day was David’s birthday, I was so excited about making a gluten-free, yellow cake with chocolate ganache frosting adorned with raspberries, from scratch. I’m not bragging I am just very excited that I finally got one of my homemade cakes to look half way decent! Well compared to my others.
At least they taste good. (Pictures below for comparison.)
After the kids were in bed, David and I discussed how it came about that he received the gifts that he did. The kids explained it to him but there were some important observations about how they processed through their ideas. I asked each child what they wanted to get David for his birthday. Here is what they came up with.
Ariel: I want to get Daddy lotion. He has dry hands like me and it will help heal his hands.
Me: Daddy does not want Lego’s. You want Lego’s. What do you want to get for Daddy?
Joshua: A box, like mine for his doctor stuff. So he won’t lose them.
Side note: We got each one of them tackle boxes Joshua and Ariel are using them for their Lego’s and Daniel is using his for his “electronic toys”, so they will not lose them.
Daniel: Lord of the Rings.
Me: I am not sure I can get something LOTR but I will try.
I ended up getting David a game that the family could play together.
I could not find anything LOTR that was not too expensive, besides the day before David received the LOTR Wii game. David and I talked about how each child processed their gift giving idea differently. Ariel and Daniel both made choices about gifts the way I do. I immediately think of a need or something that I know the person likes. The problem is that a lot of people do not want to receive gifts based on their needs. On the other hand people also do not want to have large quantities of things that they like. If I discover that someone likes something I tend to error in my thinking that they would like LARGE quantities of the particular thing.
Or that they would like to be all consumed by it.
All of us in this household want to consume as much information or things that are our interests and we assume others feel the same way. Fortunately, it works for us but unfortunately not so much with others. Sometimes it works out great though, I tend to always be the one with the “odd” gift while others are giving what seems frivolous silly gifts and some people find that refreshing.
As for Joshua he made a gift choice like David would.
He first thought of what he likes, then when he realized that David did not want Lego’s, he applied a principle that he had learned. David purchased an otoscope and a lighted ear wax remover, he has a stethoscope and other “doctor” things in case we need to check things at home to determine if we need to go to the doctor. Joshua thought of those things and realized that David had no place to keep them, just like his Lego’s. Since we told him that he could lose his Lego’s if we didn’t keep them in a storage box, he thought the same thing about regarding David’s stuff.
Kids are so fascinating.
Cake comparisons. I will spare you the years before. Why do I keep making cakes? I really don’t know. It’s become a challenge now.