Daniel has been doing great with letting go of the bottle. He has been doing much better playing with others, learning how to use his words, participating in many activities and many other things. But with great progress comes other issues. All of these new adventures for him is just too much sometimes. He was doing amazing and has been just so happy.

Then came Thanksgiving Day.

I wasn’t really thinking about how that day would effect Daniel. I was just looking forward to a day where David was with us all day long. I was looking forward to not being the only parent and being able to get a little help for the day. I was looking forward to not having to having to do everything all day long. The problem is that is a made up scenario in my head. I always imagine that day, whenever David takes a day off. That is always what I picture and it never turns out that way. I have images of David and the kids playing and me being able to join in or take a break and everyone is happy and laughing.

A grand family day.

It never works out that way and I don’t know why I always think it will. David has no clue to the routine we have going on here and he doesn’t even think to help me out with breakfast, getting the kids their drinks, sitting and talking to them, taking care of the situation when they begin to have a dispute and the many other things that go on. It’s not his fault he has a certain plan in his head as well. He just wants to play games. There is no way to get him out of it, that is his script for holidays and he is obsessed with it.

So it should be no surprise that Daniel had a very rough day and still has not recovered.

I ended up cooking all day long, I don’t even know how I ended up doing that. David spent the day trying to play games with the kids. Our whole routine was off and Daniel couldn’t function. He got angry and had many meltdowns, he was extremely angry with me and I had no idea why. It didn’t dawn on me until the next day that he got out of sync because of the day before. He is not used to David being downstairs all day and not working, he is not used to me being in the kitchen all day, the meals were off a little, I was off because  I was cooking and still trying to take care of the regular things of the day.

It just wasn’t pleasant for me or Daniel that day.

Actually for anyone. David was having a hard time because he is used to working all day and the kid situations are sometimes very stressful for him. He has AS traits too so there are a lot of dynamics that goes on when he is taking a break from work. He was looking forward to a break too. Ariel and Joshua were looking forward to having Daddy all day long. We all did it, we all made scripts in our minds and the day did not play out the way we expected. Although it was not a bad day, there were many good moments. The reason I say it wasn’t pleasant is because it was so stressful. Even Ariel and Joshua were off.

I tried to prepare him but all of us had certain scripts in our minds that just did not happen.

After over a week of him having meltdowns and anger outbursts, it is rather tiring. However, it is nothing like it used to be and I need to keep my focus on how much better he is and how he is learning to help himself. He used to go through this all day long, months at a time. I would only have a few days or maybe one where he was able to to communicate, play, be happy and now it is the other way around. He is having a rough week but I know it won’t be much longer and I am so thankful that now when he is going through this it doesn’t last nearly as long and he is able to bounce back and end up having a great day.

I wish I could bounce back just as quickly, but I am getting better with this too.

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